Now, more than ever, it is important to recognise the signs of domestic and family violence. We encourage everyone to understand that violence does not always have to be physical. All of us need to be able to be aware of the non-physical signs of domestic and family violence and the tactics to intervene effectively and safely so that we can each be an effective bystander, willing to help someone who may be in need.

The Allison Baden-Clay Foundation developed the STAND BY HER campaign, to empower the community to be effective bystanders throughout Domestic and Family Violence Awareness Month in May, by sharing real stories of how bystanders helped women within a domestic and family violence situation.

The STAND BY HER campaign highlights that We All Have A Voice and just how powerful that voice can be. Whether in a passing conversation, an invitation for a coffee catch up or an offer for more immediate help, these small things plant a seed of support and can change the course of someone’s future.

The Allison Baden-Clay Foundation acknowledges that men can also be victims of domestic and family violence, however overwhelming research shows that this is a gendered issue. This is not about men being perpetrators and women being victims, it is about solutions that we can all do to help end domestic and family violence.

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Duluth Power & Control Wheel

Domestic and family violence is not just physical. It is important that all Australian’s recognise and can identify the non-phyiscal signs of domestic and family violence, as they are often subtle and can be hard to miss but are just as important to recognise.

The Duluth Power and Control Wheel a resource which highlights the various non-physical signs of domestic and family violence.


Technological Abuse

With the advances of technology, also comes additional ways to hold power and control within relationships. Technological abuse is also a non-physical sign of domestic and family violence. Some signs include:
  • Tracking or monitoring someone’s movements without consent
  • Reading messages without consent
  • Restricting use of technology to contact friends or family
  • Sharing Cloud Data so private information such as messages/emails can be accessed on multiple devices without consent.
The STAND BY HER Campaign was made with the support of Brisbane Domestic Violence Service (BDVS) and Micah Projects’ Voices for Change Program. Voices for Change is a national survivor media advocacy project pilot, initiated nationally by Our Watch and implemented locally by Brisbane Domestic Violence Service (BDVS).
The Brisbane Domestic Violence Service (BDVS) is a free and confidential service for people in the Brisbane Metropolitan area who are affected by domestic and family violence. The service supports women, children, family members, same sex couples, couples without children and others.
Get in touch with BDVS:
Phone: (07) 3217 2544

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Allison’s Gift Program by the MATE Bystander

In conjunction with Griffith University’s MATE Bystander Program, The Allison Baden-Clay Foundation has created the Allison’s Gift Program. This Program is delivered to corporate environments to educate participants on the signs of domestic and family violence, and provides tactics to intervene safely and effectively.

Find out more about the program and express your interest in taking part!


    Additional Resources

    Whether you are a bystander or someone who is experiencing domestic and family violence, there are a number of valuable resources that you can contact to seek help. Listed below are some resources our Foundation recommends, for additional resources please visit our Resource page.